You’ll be stuck with yourself forever

Hello!

“I love my life. I am powerful, I am beautiful, I am free. I love my life. I am wonderful, I am magical, I am me. I love my life.” I guess you all know from which song is this verse. It’s from Robbie Williams’s song Love my life and when I first heard it, I had to sit down, because it was so good. It talks about something we all lack and that’s definitely self-love and self-acceptance. And I don’t mean just loving yourself, but also loving your job, your relationships, your current situation – basically, loving your life. It’s hard sometimes and I’ve been there, but if you put a little bit of your time to self-improvement, you’ll get to your ‘happy place’.

Self-love is something that I’ve been struggling with for the most of my life and that’s exactly why I write a lot about it. It has been a huge part of my life and because I know a lot about it, I want to put out why it’s so important, because if you ask me, 70% of people (or even more) struggle with it on a daily basis. What is self-love? “Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth.” I found this definition on the internet and I have to say that it’s quite accurate. Self-love is something that cannot be within you, if you don’t practice it. I think that the biggest reason for self-love are actions that mature you and from which you personally grow and develop (basically stepping out of your comfort zone). And when you grow, you start to accept your flaws and mistakes, as well as your talents and strengths, you complain less about your current situation and you do more to rather solve your problems than dwell on them, you find your purpose in life, you are grateful and finally, you accept yourself as a full package. And this last one is probably the most important amongst everything I’ve mentioned.

Self-love can be practiced in so many different ways and I’ll give you some ideas on how to improve it. Firstly, become mindful and do things for yourself. What you want in life? What is your purpose? What is good for you? Who are you? These are just some of the questions that can help you start loving yourself. They are difficult, but once you start working on yourself and finding your true identity, you’ll also start loving yourself more. Do things for yourself and not for others. Don’t seek for approval of others, because you don’t need any. You are living your life and nobody else is walking in your shoes. Therefore, do what makes you happy, think what you want to think, say what you feel and always follow your heart. If you stay true to yourself and your own thoughts, you’ll become more confident and consequently, you’ll love yourself more, because you’ll become more ‘you’. Secondly, practice good self-care. That means that you should take care of your nutrition and exercise, your sleep and your relationships. If you balance all of them, you’ll definitely be healthier and you’ll feel more satisfied with yourself as well. You will love yourself more, when you take better care of your basic needs.

Next thing to take care of is definitely to protect yourself. What do I mean with that? Bring the right people into your life. Negativity, judgements, mendacity, criticism, sadness, deceit, hypocrisy – these are just some of the things that you definitely don’t need in your life. If you have toxic people or relationships around you, I suggest you that you distance yourself from them. Why? If you spend a lot of time with negative people, you won’t feel good; you’ll be anxious and believe me, you’ll become negative yourself as well. There isn’t enough time in your life to waste on people who want to take away the happiness, positivity and shine on your face. 

Forgive yourself for your mistakes. You are a human as well and we all make mistakes. But they are just a proof that you are trying. Don’t beat yourself because of your failure. Learn from it, get up and try again. As long as you are trying, you are winning. Accept the fact that you are not perfect (nor is anybody else) and your self acceptance and love towards yourself will definitely grow even more.

I few days ago, when I was scrolling through Pinterest, I found something that actually encouraged me to write this post today. It was similar to these: “Once you fully accept and love yourself, you will start to attract people and circumstances to you that support your well-being.” If I look at myself, exactly a year ago, I was shy and quiet, I didn’t love myself and my life and I was always blaming everybody else for everything that happened to me. Today, I am more ‘me’ than I ever was and everything started with the decision to start loving myself more. I love myself and my body and my personality and if somebody doesn’t like it, I don’t argue. Negative people are not a part of my life anymore, because I love myself enough to know what is best for me and what isn’t. And toxic people are definitely not something that should be in my life anymore. It’s crazy that when you fully accept yourself, all your flaws and talents, you actually attract like-minded people in your life. Today, I’m surrounded by so many positive and amazing people that I sometimes ask myself, what did I do to deserve something like this. But, the Universe knows best and I know that there is a good reason behind it. I have just a little reminder for you: accept yourself, forgive yourself, love yourself and be yourself. Nothing in your life is more important than self-love and acceptance. You better love yourself, because you’ll be stuck with yourself for your whole life.

Until next time,
T.