This year the first and most important goal is to love myself even more, to become the best version of myself, to boost my confidence, to believe in myself and everything I am and to appreciate every single thing, person and situation that happens to me. Everything happens for a reason and even me, writing this post, has a purpose. I want to share some of my best ways to find yourself and to become who you are meant to be – your true self.
1. Accept your uniqueness
First and probably the most important, but at the same time, the hardest thing ever, is to fully accept yourself. You have to realize what an awesome human being you are. You are special in your own way and there will never be anyone exactly like you. You are you, with all your special gifts and talents and flaws at the same time. Yes, accepting yourself is a hard thing, but once you fully love yourself, you will become unstoppable.
2. Do things you love
Make priorities in your life. If you are working as a secretary and you hate your job and would love to work as a teacher in kindergarten, do it. Would you rather do something you don’t enjoy every single day than something you enjoy and love doing? When you do something you love, it doesn’t even feel like work, because you’re literally living it. If you want to go camping, bungee jumping, start playing a guitar, travel, do it. You only have this one life to do and experience as much as you can. If you don’t do it now, when will you?
3. Choose positivity over negativity
Life is much better if you see it through positive eyes. Sometimes things happen and they aren’t nice. But the best you can do at that moment is to learn from it, grow from it and move on. The worse thing you can do is to (over)think about it and look for the cause of why it happened. Past is past and what happened there is already done. So, don’t dwell there. Forgive yourself, forget about it and move on. Sometimes choosing positivity in the worst moments can be difficult, because you just can’t see the light at the end of the tunnel. But usually that positive aspect and optimism can help you to get out of that negative circle. So, even if the times are bad for you, try to think as positively as possible.
4. Let the love in
First of all, surround yourself with people who love you and appreciate their love and support. It doesn’t matter if you have only a couple of friends who are always there for you and who better you as a person. It’s always quality over quantity. Also, when others compliment you or thank you for something you’ve done, accept those compliments. Don’t overthink why they complimented you or if they truly mean it. It’s not important. Accept them and continue being a better person.
5. Don’t compare yourself to others
I’ve mentioned this one a lot in my previous posts, but I will repeat it over and over again. Do not compare yourself to others and do not try to be somebody else, because you can’t be. You are you and if you love and accept yourself (according to that first point), you won’t ever look at somebody and wish you were them. I read this quote in the book You are a badass by Jen Sincero and it goes like this: “Comparison is the fastest way to take all the fun out of life.” It’s none of your business what people think about you. What you think about yourself counts the most and your uniqueness makes you awesome. So, avoid comparison and just be who you are.
6. Forgive yourself
We are all human. We all make mistakes. And believe me or not, mistakes are proof that you are trying. You can’t fail if you don’t try. Self-criticism is probably one of the most harmful actions you can to to yourself. And it won’t make you feel any better as well. “Holding on to my bad feelings about this is doing nothing but harming me, and everyone else, and preventing me from enjoying my life fully. I am an awesome person. I choose to enjoy my life. I choose to let this go.” Repeat this to yourself if you feel that you need somebody to talk to. It will definitely help.
When we are happy and we truly love ourselves, we don’t need all that negativity in our life. We don’t even bother with it. I think that we all deserve to be loved, not just by others, but from ourselves as well. Self-love seems like a really easy and logical thing, but it’s not. Better said, we complicate it. Imagine what our world would look like if we would just love ourselves so much that even other’s opinion wouldn’t have threatened us, and we would just be whoever the hell we want to be. Imagine how different your reality would’ve been if you would love yourself and do whatever you want to do and listen to your heart whenever you would want. That’s the world I want to live in and I bet you want that freedom as well. In one of my previous posts, I’ve mentioned that loving yourself is literally like dating yourself. What kind of person would you want to date for the rest of your life? Be yourself and don’t let anybody dull your sparkle, because you are a badass.
Until next time,